Before I got lucky and met my wife, I had mixed experiences with the opposite sex.
Some girls I liked saw me as just a friend.
Some girls who liked me, I saw just as friends.
Some mutual attractions ended horribly.
Some mutual attractions ended amicably (but their friends got mad).
All pretty typical stuff (except, perhaps, for the friends yelling at me?).
At one point, after a weird sequence of events, I started running into the "prettiest girl in school" almost everywhere I went--no, I wasn't stalking her! (I put that in quotes because while I remember her resembling a teenage Brittany Spears, she may have looked more like a Brittany Spaniel--who knows with teenage boys!) And suddenly she wanted to talk to me. I was pretty sure we had chemistry.
We flirted a little. I think. She was very, very pretty (to me), so I may have misinterpreted. But I quickly realized I really didn't enjoy spending time with her. I didn't like her personality. She was more than a little stuck on herself and her sense of humor centered mostly on putting down others. One day I bumped into her at my grandmother's store. We chatted for a minute and then she said something like, "I'm not sure if you're my type or not." She said it teasingly, but it gave me a perfect opening to put an end to our...whatever it was. I laughed and said, "Trust me, I'm not your type." Then I turned and walked away. I never spoke to her again. She was shiny, but not the one for me.
Years later I saw her at one of my son's back-to-school nights. She gave me the stink eye. At that moment I thought about how lucky I was that I didn't waste any time on her. Thanks to that I was unattached when I met my wife a few months later. It's funny how things work out.
Why did I share this story? I'm not 100% sure why I share any of them. But in this case it's just as a reminder that we need to get to know people before we build them up in our minds as something special OR dismiss them as not worth our time. People have a way of surprising you.
Let yourself be surprised--but always in a safe, well lit place with lots of other people around. :D
PS - Brittany Spaniel is a dog breed.
Life works in mysterious ways! I'm glad you didn't waste more time with her and found your lovely wife instead!
ReplyDeleteI've always been pretty lucky and had good timing. My guardian angel does excellent work! :)
Deletetotally agree! i met this guy who was so good looking but then when i got to know him, he was a total turd.
ReplyDeleteI have a brother who enables people like that--as long as a girl is attractive, she can treat him like dirt. It's sad. He needs to be more like you!
DeleteHaha definitely worked out for the better! Actually before my husband and I met, my best friend tried to get us to date each other. He is the brother of her sorority sister, whom I met years ago. My friend said, how about so and so's brother? I said, meh I dunno (I had never met him). She also said to him, how about my friend Yi-chia, she's single now. And he said, meh I dunno.
ReplyDelete8 months or so later, we met at that same friend's new years eve party and the rest is history. :)
xo, Yi-chia
Always Maylee
I like that story. It was meant to be! Was it a coincidence that you were both at the party or did your friend arrange it? :)
DeleteYeah, funny how things turn out sometimes. I always love your stories! Keep sharing 'em! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you, you are too kind! My best stories have all been told. Hopefully I came live some new ones. :)
DeleteI am trying SO hard to let myself be surprised and not let my own head get in my way :)
ReplyDeleteWe have met the enemy and it is our heads!
DeleteQue Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.
Unless I can make it be somthing else!!! :)
I think there are ways to quickly discover a person's true character. One would be to attempt wallpapering a room together. Another would be to load kayaks on top of a vehicle. :-)
ReplyDeleteI can't tell you how lucky I am that my wife and I didn't try any projects together while single. We dated over 5 years and knew I couldn't be the one to teach her things--like tennis or bowling. But it wasn't until we got married that we realized we can't do things like paint rooms or put on pool covers as a team. But by the time she discovered that she was already stuck with me. :)
Deletelol I remember when Britney Spears was the hottest thing, hahahaha! and funny how she gave you a stink eye so many years later!
ReplyDeleteI guess it stuck with her, since she thought she was "IT" and I just walked away. It is a weird thing to hold onto. Another sign that I did the right thing.
DeleteApparently Spears dind;t impress me either--I accidentally spelled her name the same as the dog breed! :D
That's really weird how she was still miffed about it so many years later lol. Obvioiusly, her teen years were her peak years ;)
ReplyDeletelol, me too!!! But I met my wife then, so it worked out perfectly. :)
DeleteI needed this post tonight! Thanks for the affirmation! Life truly works mysteriously!
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I'm glad--good things do happen!
DeleteI had to google "Brittany Spaniel" to affirm if it was indeed a dog from the word "spaniel" That was a really good word play there. I don't like her personality too and I'm glad that you ended whatever it was and met your wife instead. Imagine such a grown adult giving the stink eye. Meh...
ReplyDeleteYou're right, she wasn't being very mature for an adult. We could have had a nice conversation about the old days. My dad had a Brittany Spaniel...it was a very high strung, high maintenance creatures.
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DeleteA very good life lesson. One that I hope I can pass on to my kids!
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